How to manifest a new you

Come on guys and gals! It’s not very hard to manifest a new you – all you have to do is find a diet that works for you!

Sadly, many of us are lazy about dieting because we’ve come to regard it as difficult and comfortable – or even painful. The reality is that if you get the right diet, you’ll find it no hardship at all to diet and lose weight quickly! Then you really will be able to say you’ve manifested a new you!

This is because one of the things you need to look out for is why you’re overeating – if you can eliminate the root cause of your overeating, then clearly you can diet more easily because you haven’t got the impetus to find food.

Many people eat to soothe themselves, and it’s a common enough problem in dieting to find that people can start off alright, reducing their calorific intake and until they find that when emotional troubles begin – perhaps they’re upset by something that’s happened in their lives – they turn to food as a way of soothing themselves.

The same is true, of course, of drugs and alcohol, and neither of these are going to help overcome the difficulty of dieting if you actually haven’t dealt with your emotional problems.

Therefore I recommend that if you want to diet, you choose a diet when you’re in a place of emotional stability and happiness. If you’re likely to be facing any emotional difficulties, or challenges in your life, then it’s probably not a good idea to be dieting!

And having said that, the next thing you need to do is find a diet that is going to work for you. Obviously if you know anything about Internet dieting, you’ll know that there are hundreds, if not even thousands of diets available on the Internet – how on earth are you going to choose one?

Well, the answer to that question is that you’ve come to the right place, because I know a lot about Internet dieting, having been recommending various programs to people for over 10 years now.

There are several that I recommend, but one of them that stands out amongst all the others is the fat loss factor – it’s a quick way to diet  which will enable you to lose weight quickly, without the discomfort of pain, hunger pangs and emotional turmoil.

It’s written by an expert in the field of nutrition, so he knows what he’s talking about, his approach is always commonsense based, unchallenging to you, and always realistic in its objectives.

You’ve seen some programs on the Internet, some of these diet programs which demand that you take massive action – which generally means painful and strenuous exercise.

The fat loss factor is NOT like that, for although you will need to do some moderate exercise, the fat loss factor actually demands only that you stick to a schedule of weight loss, and even if you slip back there aren’t any penalties!

So by aiming to lose 10 pounds, 20 pounds or maybe even 30 pounds in 10, 12 or perhaps 20 weeks, you can set your target weight loss, and you can decide just how fast or slowly you want to manifest your “new you”. Make no mistake about it – there are BENEFITS to achieving a new you through dieting – not least of them being health benefits.

You see, these days we know that being overweight, and fatness and obesity contribute to massive health problems such as heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure. Who in their right minds would not want to deal with these if they had the option of taking an easy program like the fat loss factor and dealing with it quickly and easily and simply?

I’m sure that doesn’t include you, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this post, but the point I want to make is this:  there are serious health implications if you don’t lose weight fast, and if you choose NOT to lose weight, then you are, in effect, curtailing the lifespan that you should be going to enjoy on this planet.

Surely that in itself is enough motivation for you to find a way to engage in a diet plan wholeheartedly?

I can recommend some techniques, too. Start with visualization of your desired objectives: this is a very good way to achieve fast weight loss – when you  put a “program” into your brain, in the form of a mental image that is highly motivating – you can actually program your brain to work faster and harder to achieve desired weight loss than you could possibly even begin to imagine, right now!

But what it requires from you before you do anything is firm commitment – resolute commitment, clear intention, and an absolutely crystal clear objective of what you want to achieve, and how quickly you want to achieve it, are essential.

And, you need to know, more than anything else, why you want to achieve it. We all know that looking good and feeling fine are great motivators, but generally they don’t have enough emotional power for people to actually engage with them fully.

A good motivational image for dieting is one which has great emotional power for you – something like dying early, and depriving your husband of the company of your life for the last few years.

Or perhaps you just simply leaving this beautiful planet on which we all live. Or maybe having a stroke and being crippled.

All of these things can be powerful emotional motivators; but it’s essential you find something that works well for you, because without it, you won’t have the emotional fuel to drive your weight loss program.

And also – you need to have the emotional stability and the power which helps you stick to your objectives, to what you’re trying to achieve.

Enough said, go out now and buy the fact loss factor. You’ll never look back, you’ll lose weight quickly, and you’ll find out you really can be the person you always wanted to be.

More than anything else, perhaps, you’ll find out that you really do have the willpower to achieve your goals quickly, easily and efficiently – and that way your self-esteem and pride in who you are will increase. Not only that, but you’ll look good and feel great too! And if you’re a man and you want a diet designed for the male system? Sure, we have one of those, too. It’s the Adonis Golden ratio, and you can find out about it here.…. good luck!

Breaking Up IS Hard To Do – So Don’t Do It!

Well, hello. We’re all about finding ways to keep life happy and healthy on this blog! And to that extent, of course, we have to face some unhappy facts — such as this: relationships break up from time to time.

And we all know that, and we’ve probably all been through a breakup — I should think the number of people who haven’t is very small, but doesn’t that mean that we all know something about dealing with break-ups?

Now, now…. NO! I don’t think it does actually….. because, you know, one thing I’ve learnt over the years is that people just seem to repeat the same pattern time after time.

How women can connect with men

Repeat the same pattern — but why? Probably because they are locked into a cycle of hoping one day to find a soulmate, never really looking at the real issues that might be handicapping their relationships.

And when you talk about handicapping relationships, there’s literally nothing more likely to handicap any relationship than poor communication.

I mean have you talked to your partner recently? Really talked, I mean? Yeah, about the stuff that really matters, the deep stuff – (hold your breath guys!) the emotional stuff.

Oh, I can hear you groaning now if you’re a bloke. We don’t like to talk about that stuff, do we my fellow guys? No. And that’s one of the problems in all relationships between men and women — women like to talk about emotional stuff, and how they feel, and men would like to avoid emotions like the plague.

Men and women are so different

Ah – men and women are so different!

I mean: men and women are different — we all know that. And how different are they? Extremely different, because men and women just don’t communicate in the same way. I suppose my question is, can they learn to? Communicate in the same way, that is?

Who knows, it doesn’t seem to be happening in society at large, does it, really?

And why is that — have you any idea?

The Truth About Communication

I believe that’s fundamentally because men are programmed to “do”, women are programmed to “be” (to be social, in fact). You may get what I mean by programmed to be social — and if you’re not, I mean: to find out what’s going on in the community, the family, the village environment – and so on. And they do that by talking, by being hypersensitive, and intuitive.

Men are programmed to do things — like hunting, working, building: and they form cooperative bodies which are hierarchical, where every male knows his place in relation to every other male in the hierarchy.

So if that’s true, what does it means about communication of men and women in relationship?

When you think about it, is a very good question! In fact, it’s absolutely fundamental to all relationships between men and women everywhere.

Can men and women ever learn to communicate in a way that is harmonious?

You only have to think of what happens when a breakup takes place in relationship to know that communicating harmoniously they can be very very challenging indeed.

The pain, the sense of emotional betrayal, the sense of abandonment, the sense of loss, the anger, the grief, the pain — whatever it is, it all gets in the way of communication.

But when you think about it, problems of anger, defensiveness, self-justification, righteousness, and so forth are insidious in existing relationships anyway. The real miracle is that relationships happen at all, not that they breakup!

So suppose you’re in a relationship that is not going well – what can you do about it? Well, you could learn to communicate better. You could learn to drop the blame, you could drop the self-justification, you could learn to drop the defensiveness.

Above all you could learn to listen to your partner, you could learn to listen to your partner when they speak to you from the heart, telling you how they feel.

“Ah,” you say, “but it’s so difficult.” Yes, true. Because often when people talk from the heart they feel – and then they get into blaming, they get into judging, get into criticising — and that’s no less true for women than men, by the way.

So maybe the truth of the matter is that actually there isn’t any difference in communication between men and women, maybe we are just as inarticulate as each other. Just as emotionally unintelligent. 

Maybe the truth is that we all have to learn how to communicate on an emotional level. And you know what, I think is plenty of evidence to show that women and men are no more or less emotionally intelligent than each other.

So if that’s true then what can we do about it?

Get therapy, get counselling, go on a listening skills course?

Yeah sure, all of that’s possible — but maybe there’s a simpler way maybe you can learn it from the Internet.

I’m not joking here either: the Internet is a very good way of communicating things that normally people wouldn’t say to each other (or even seek a way of understanding and learning about them).

So if that’s true, where can you go to learn about good communication with your partner? Bizarrely enough, I think you can go to a place that is designed to help people who have broken up get back together: a program called Text Your Ex Back by Mike Fiore. (Click here to see it. www.textingtolove.com

I’m not joking here either, because when you think about it there’s no place on earth where judging, criticism, blaming, anger, defensiveness, self-justification, righteousness, and all those other not very juicy and delightful qualities come into play than a relationship breakup.

Harmony - between men and women! Is it possible - yes, with Text Your Ex Back!

Harmony – at last!

Could it be, therefore, that a program designed to help people get back together after a relationship breakup might just be the best way of people staying together before they actually breakup?

Well, you know what? I don’t have an answer to that question, but I think it’s certainly worth examining. And in fact, the principles set out in Text Your Ex Back, by Mike Fiore, seem to me to be very sound and sensible psychological principles of communication. It’s not like he’s trying out rocket science work: he’s just pointing out that, actually, there are some ways in which people can communicate with each other which are more likely to lead to mutual understanding and acceptance than others.